Friends With Exes?

Lately I’ve been reading a few of these single people’s blogs. A couple of them started to follow me on Twitter, and as a courtesy to fellow bloggers, I check out what they have to say. “Yeah, sure Aimee” you say to yourself. So, I started to ponder my own history and my beliefs about dating and marriage. Believe it or not, I did have a life before I settled down and had children. Maybe if you’re good I’ll share some stories with you.

This post is mostly a query to all of you: Are you friends with any of your exes?
Can you really be friends with them or is it all an illusion and someone is secretly bitter about it?

Now keep in mind, it’s been over 15 years since I dated anyone other than my husband. Personally, I just couldn’t keep in touch with them. It could be that I was the immature one at the time or maybe it was the kind of guys I was dating at the time, but when I was done with the guy, I was DONE! I didn’t want to hear from or see them anymore. Thank god we didn’t have Facebook or Twitter back then. It seems like that opens up a whole other can of worms on the dating scene. I think that the time that has elapsed gives me enough of a cushion to talk about it.
One of them found me on Facebook a year ago but I declined the friend request. Brutal? I guess I’m just not there yet where it doesn’t matter one way or the other if I’m friends with them on Facebook.
There is only one woman in my husband’s past that I have requested that he doesn’t accept her friend request. She was his girlfriend before me. Now, I trust my husband completely, but she was kind of pushy, I don’t trust women like that. Do you know what I’m talking about? The kind of person that won’t let up, like they can’t get it through their thick skulls why you don’t want them in your life anymore. Yeah, that’s her.
So, dear readers, I would love your feedback on this one. You can be as specific or as vague as you like in your answers.
Aimee